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Defining Success

Parents and recreation leaders can help young people define success on their own terms instead of imposing narrow expectations and comparisons.

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Dad and Grandpa stand with their noses pressed against the glass. “I mean, the doc said it was going to be a boy, but wow, what a strapping boy! Look at the mitts on that bugger! Wait till he gets a bat in those hands—or pulls in a 50-yard pass in the end zone!”

He’s as tough-looking as his big sister was delicate, her tiny hands and feet like those of a future ballerina. Look how well she’s already doing in her lessons at 3. Ms. Donna says she could imagine her in the primary role in The Nutcracker by the time she is 7.

Great expectations. All parents have them. It’s only natural. We want our kids to have advantages and great rewards as they grow. We want them to be fulfilled, fully challenged, and feeling successful. They should have every opportunity we missed or elected not to take.