Forget the blame game and go forward in life
My wife and I are often amused at some evening television that involves troubled adults who just can’t settle with their childhoods and the way their parents screwed up their lives. From the “unable to commit” daughter with father issues to the overbearing son with confidence issues, parents always seem to be held accountable for everything that went wrong. And, certainly, for many reasons they should be blamed for some of it, but in my mind I find I need to simply tuck the pain away and move forward. Parents usually try to do the best they can.
I mean, don’t you find some adults who still wallow in the causes of their own “pain and suffering” are unable to get their kids to soccer practice or gymnastics on time? The kids are often chewing fast food as they get out of the car. It seems that one of the “crimes” their parents’ parents committed was letting them sleep in or skip a game or practice if the kids just didn’t feel like playing that day. So, punctuality can be blamed on parents, too. However, the impacted kid can roll it either way:
- “My parents let me slide on everything.”
- “They should have been tougher with me.”
- “They were so understanding and fun.”
Depending on the outcome, parents are blamed or appreciated, see? It’s so easy to manipulate fault.
